Rodney
Chalmer prepared well for his first trip to South Korea,
where he hoped to sign a major sponsorship for an Australian
sporting body. He did a lot of research on social protocol
before he left, learned basic South Korean phrases for ‘please’ and ‘thank
you’ and took an abundance of cuddly Australian toys
for gifts, most of which he’d bought at the airport.
But, unless he’d auditioned for Australian Idol,
nothing could prepare Rodney for the real deal clincher,
which climaxed well after mid-night at a plush karaoke
bar in Seoul.
“You have to consume large quantities of alcohol
before you sing karaoke in Australia,” says Rodney. “It’s
a bit of fun and an opportunity to make a fool of your
self.
“The Koreans regard their vocal capacity and ability
to perform very seriously. It could have destroyed our
business negotiations if we had gone ahead without any
acknowledgement of their skill. We got up and sang ABBA,
they got up and belted out Bon Jovi numbers with tears
in their eyes. Then we got up together.”
Throughout the evening, alcohol was consumed at a challenging
rate for several of the Australian representatives. “The
negotiation process is primarily based around entertainment,” says
Rodney. “The Koreans like to form a personal connection
before a professional platform is established. A key means
of gaining rapport is getting drunk together and you are
expected to handle it. If you are jet-lagged, your capacity
to handle alcohol can be compromised so you might want
to discreetly drink water.”
Saving face
Lenny Parker spent many years working for a large advertising
agency in Thailand, but never forgets his first meeting
with a Coca Cola bottler and local banker who – wanting
to show his friendship – told Lenny he had spent
weeks preparing the perfect gift.
“
I’ve decided to give you a girl,” the Thai
banker said, smiling broadly. Lenny looked across the room
and saw a beautiful, 25-year-old woman, who lowered her
head and clasped her hands above her forehand in a deferential
bow.
“She is delighted to be yours,” continued
the Thai. “You can do with her what you want, she
is yours for life, but you must take care of her dental,
medical and food bills.”
Lenny, 32 at the time and married with several children,
did not think his wife would welcome a beautiful Thai woman
to their Parramatta home, even if she had graduated from
university with a bachelor of economics. “But what
could I do?” he says. “The single most important
thing in Thailand and many other South East Asian nations
is not to lose face. The worst thing I could have done
was reject the girl. The Thai banker kept smiling at me
all night, leaning across to ask, ‘Have you decided
what you are going to do with the girl?’”
Eventually, Lenny arrived at a well-received solution. “There
was no way I could take her home so I said that she would
be my personal representative in Bangkok. They were delighted
and the girl ended up having a senior role with my company.”
How culturally savvy are you?
Knowing the ins and outs of doing business across cultures
is widely recognised as having a huge impact on sales,
recruitment, acquisitions, marketing, mergers and management.
The smallest blunder, no matter how innocent, could have
a major negative impact on people and business relations.
“If you are not aware of subtle cultural differences,
how can you possibly know if you have lost business because
of it,” points out Sally Fagan of Rendez-vous Management
Consultancy. “It would be easy to blame the lost
contract on market conditions, price or not quite meeting
the specification when in fact the underlying cause may
have been a cultural blunder.”
Some countries, like Singapore, appear to observe normal
Western values, says Ms Fagan. But the longer you live
there, the clearer it becomes that the Chinese value system
runs deep and outward appearances are deceiving.
Careful preparation
While it is impossible to detail every cultural difference
in this article, a starting point is understanding where
key differences lie and what sort of cultural research
should be undertaken before holding a business meeting,
either at home or abroad. Careful preparation is the
key.
The first principle in dealing with other cultures is
to remember that your way of doing things is not better
than others, nor worse. It’s just different.
Four main categories of difference are:
- Spoken language
- Body language
- Manners
- Customs and systems
“Knowing the facts will help us see what attitudes
exist and why,” says Ms Fagan. “These will
influence behaviour patterns, which in turn will govern
communication.”
Facts may be geographical (Great Britain is an island),
historical (Australia was discovered by European mariners
in 1606), political (the People’s Republic of China
operates in a framework of a single party socialist republic)
and demographic (approximately 304 million people inhabit
the United States).
“The fact that Japan (and other Asian countries)
are demographically over-populated had led to comfort zones
being smaller,” says Ms Fagan. “If we step
backwards from a hand shake to re-establish our own comfort
zone, we may make them feel distinctly uncomfortable and
create the feeling that we are ‘cold’ or that
we don’t really like their company.”
General tips
If you are meeting someone from a different culture for
the first time, apply these general rules:
- Speak slowly and clearly
- Check and recheck
- Be direct
- Be specific
- Give them time
- Don’t be funny
- Convey consideration and goodwill
- Don’t make hasty judgements
- Think people, not foreigners
The following quick tips outline do’s and don’ts
that apply to specific cultures.
Country |
China |
India |
Japan |
South Korea |
USA |
Gifts |
-Food baskets
-Don’t give scissors, knives, clocks or flowers.
-Eight is luckiest number.
-Don’t wrap in white, blue or black paper.
-Present gifts with two hands.
-Don’t open gifts when received.
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-Yellow, green and red are lucky colours.
-Don’t give frangipani or white flowers.
-The gift is less important than the intent.
-Don’t give Hindus gifts made of leather.
-Don’t give Muslims gifts made of pigskin or
alcoholic products.
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-Giving is highly ritualistic.
-The way a gift is wrapped is important.
-Give good quality chocolate or small cakes.
-Don’t give lilies, camellias or lotus blossoms.
-Don’t give white flowers.
-Choose pastels for wrapping.
-Give items in odd numbers but not nine.
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-Gifts are reciprocated.
-Bring fruit or good chocolates if invited to a home.
-Wrap gifts nicely.
-No.4 is unlucky, don’t give in multiples of
four.
-Giving seven of an item is lucky.
-Wrap in red or yellow.
-Don’t wrap in green, white or black.
-Don’t sign a card in red ink.
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-A gift can be as simple as a card.
-Bring a small box of chocolates, wine or flowers if
dining at someone’s home.
-Gifts are opened when received.
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Greeting |
-Greet the oldest person first.
-Handshakes are used with foreigners.
-Address the person by an honorific title and their
surname.
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-Greet the eldest or most
senior person first.
-Shaking hands is common.
-There are seldom handshakes between men and women,
only between same sexes.
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-Wait to be introduced.
-The traditional form of greeting is the bow. The deeper
you bow the more respect you show.
-A foreign visitor may bow the head slightly.
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-Expect to shake hands
after a bow.
-The person of lower status bows to the person of higher
status. The most senior person initiates the handshake.
-When leaving, say goodbye and bow to each person individually.
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-Handshake.
-Be firm, brief and confident.
-Maintain eye contact during the greeting.
-Call people by their first names but use titles in
formal situations.
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Dining |
-Remove shoes before entering
a house.
-Bring a small gift.
-Learn to use chopsticks. .
-Never eat the last piece on the tray.
-Don’t put bones in your bowl.
-Try everything offered to you.
-Wait for the host before you start eating.
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-Indians may not be punctual
but foreigners should be.
-Take off shoes before entering a house.
-Turn down the first offer of tea, coffee or snacks.
-Wait to be told where to sit.
-Use your right hand to eat.
-Leave a small amount of food on your plate.
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-Remove shows before entering
a Japanese house. Put on the slippers left at the doorway.
-Dress as if going to the office.
-Put on the toilet slippers and remove them when you
are finished.
-Wait to be seated.
-Learn to use chopsticks.
-Don’t mix your food.
-Don’t talk too much.
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-Remove shoes before entering
a house.
-Wait for the oldest person to start eating first.
-Return chopsticks to the table after every few bites.
-Don’t pick up food with your hands. Spear fruit
with chopsticks.
-Try everything.
-Refuse the first offer of second helpings.
-Finish everything on your plate.
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-Table manners are more
relaxed than in many countries.
-Many foods are eaten by hand.
-Remain standing until invited to sit down.
-Don’t rest elbows on table.
-Food is often passed around on large serving trays.
-Feel free to refuse specific foods without explanation.
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Business |
-Make appointments one/two
months in advance.
-Provide the company with information about your company.
-Arrive on time or slightly early.
-Don’t ask Chinese to turn off their mobiles.
-Bring your own interpreter.
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-Make appointments by letter
one or two months in advance.
-Confirm your appointment close to the time. Be flexible
with your schedule.
-Expect first meetings to be taken up with getting-to-know
chatter.
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-Make appointments several
weeks in advance.
-Be punctual.
-Take time to let them get to know you.
-Never refuse a request. The Japanese are looking for
a long-term relationship.
-Provide a package of literature about your company.
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-Try to get an introduction
through a third party.
-Social gatherings are the way to develop relationships.
-Never insult or criticise in front of others.
-Legal documents are viewed as consensus statements
with room to move.
-Expect direct communication.
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-Arrive on time.
-Meetings may appear relaxed but are taken seriously.
-Expect a summary of what was decided at the meeting
and a list of next steps.
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Negotiating |
-Only senior members of
the negotiating team speak.
-Chinese are non-confrontational and won’t overtly
say ‘no’.
-Decisions may take a long time.
-Don’t use high-pressure tactics.
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-Indians are non-confrontational.
-Decisions are reached with the person of most authority.
-Decision making is slow.
-Indians expect concessions in price and terms.
-Don’t get overtly legalistic.
-Don’t disagree with members of your negotiating
team.
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-Japanese don’t like
to say ‘no’. Observe non-verbal communication
-Phrase questions so they can answer ‘yes’.
-Expect long periods of silence.
-Never lose your temper or raise your voice.
-The Japanese seldom grant concession. Come to the
table with your best offer.
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-Send an agenda and back-up
material.
-Use the first meeting to get to know the others.
-Don’t remove your jacket unless the most senior
South Korean does.
-Have all written materials in both languages.
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-Be direct.
-Use statistics to back up claims.
-Conduct business rapidly.
-Expect little small talk.
-The emphasis is on signing a contract rather than
building a relationship.
-Develop the relationship post coming to an agreement.
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Clothes |
-Conservative.
-Wear dark colours.
-Women should wear flat shoes or low heels.
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-Conservative.
-Dark colours.
-Women should wear suits or dresses.
-Dress is less formal in hotter parts of the country.
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-Conservative.
-Dark colours.
-Men should wear business suits.
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-Conservative.
-Men should wear dark colours, women subdued colours.
-Men should avoid wearing jewellery other than marital
rings.
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-People in the east dress
more formally.
-Executives dress formally.
-Casual Friday is common in many companies.
-Wear a suit unless you know the company is more casual.
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Cards |
-Exchange cards after initial
introduction.
-Translate one side of your card into Chinese.
-Offer the card with both hands.
-Study a business card when it is presented.
-Do not write on someone’s business card unless
directed.
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-Exchange after initial
introduction.
-Put any university degrees or honours on your card.
-Use the right hand to give and receive cards.
-Cards do not need to be translated.
-Present your card so that it can be read as it is
handed over.
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-Exchanged constantly and
with great ceremony.
-Invest in quality cards.
-Treat the business card reverentially.
-Translate one side of your business card to Japanese.
-Give your card with the Japanese writing facing the
recipient.
-Include your title.
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-Exchange after first meeting
in a ritualised fashion.
-Translate one side of your card into Korean.
-Present your business card with both hands with the
Korean side face up.
-Examine any business card you receive carefully.
-Never write on someone’s card in their presence.
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-Exchange cards after the
initial handshake.
-No formal ritual.
-Recipients will put your card in their wallet, which
may then go in the back pocket of their trousers. This
is not an insult.
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For more on specific cross
cultural etiquette and training go to:
http://www.kwintessential.co.uk
Further reading
Doing Business Internationally: The Guide To Cross-Cultural
Success by Danielle Medina Walker and Thomas Walker
Do's and Don'ts Around the World: A Country Guide to Cultural
and Social Taboos and Etiquette : Asia (International Traveler's
Resource Guide) by Gladson I. Nwanna
Chinese Business Etiquette: A Guide
to Protocol, Manners, and Culture in the People's Republic
of China (A Revised
and Updated Edition of "Dealing with the Chinese")
by Scott D. Seligman (Paperback - Mar 1, 1999)
Business Class: Etiquette Essentials for Success at Work
by Jacqueline Whitmore (Author)
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